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17 Apr 11
Purple peeps
My Dad once said "It's not the getting older that's hard, it's the thinking that you shouldn't spend all evening
reading the paper.." He said that about twenty years ago, and the budding interviewer in me bets he'd rescind now. He's
having a knee replaced this week. It's not so much my Dad getting older that I fear will be hard, it's my Dad daring
to get older in the midst of my life. I, too am getting older. I have to wear reading glasses to see
the letters I write. I write during my "mature" fits of insomnia. In my ripening, I have come to realize that it
would be futile not to accept some of the things that have been revealed to me in my life. That box of knowing that
once opened, you can't un-know. Wishing won't make it so. Take a scavenger hunt is about perspective. About
a choice in how we see things. So here in the holiest of weeks while my family rallies to testimony over our love for
our Father, while the world engages in the ceremony of remembering the betrayal of the savior of the world, mourning his death
and celebrating with a fanfare of trumpets his resurrection, while spring breaks, tulips bloom and rabbits feast, I'm faced
with a choice about how I'll see things. I can brace for the clumsy collaboration my family shows up with during
any rally (big or small, planned or unexpected), I can clench imagining that my Mother's Norwegian Morbid Gene will show it's
dominance just about the time some little earthquake at work can only be settled by my attention, or I can make a scavenger
hunt out of the week, inviting a new guest to the ritual of the watching and helping of gettting older in the midst of the
gettting older. My sister-in-law sent me a text message on Saturday "The doorbell rang and it was neighborhood
kids at a birthday party on a scavenger hunt- we gave them Ramen Noodles!" My heart lept! So there will be hospitals
and x-ray technicians, physical therapists, sybling agendas (and I am one), well-wishers and the Lord's descension and ascension.
What will my hunt list include? Will they play along with me, or will I be the lone seeker this week? A parking
place near the elevators to the hospital walkway...(selfish, I know, did I mention I'm the youngest, though?) Some
care-giving proffessional sporting a bunny pin...(likely, sure, but we all need a little slack) A hopscotch game...(evens
things out, right?) A"D" sized battery...(follow the theme here- it's energizing) Animal crackers...(just
because) An Easter bonnet...(well, according to Gospel, hat hair is the least we can suffer) An egg in
my shoe...(maybe I'm not so ready to be getting old just yet)
17 apr 11 @ 6:36 am
27 Feb 11
in what ways am i a stranger to
life? i am a stranger to... tightropes and chafing dishes and holiding lizards and reading poetry out
loud and rock-climbing and yodeling and wearing my clothes backwards and dissecting frogs and roller coasters
and bungee-jumping and political speeches and shaving my head and playing country music and studying for a degree and hitchhiking and scuba diving and writing a novel and giving birth and running a marathon and
getting a Brazilian wax and eating brains and driving cross country and owning my own business and brandishing
a weapon and wearing contacts and winning a Nobel prize and traveling to Africa and going to a prom and baking
a pie and shooting a film i must remind myself that life is not a stranger to me... it is i who make
myself a stranger to it -Marilyn Maciel, "the stranger"
In
Marylin Maciel's poem, The Stranger, she lists all manner of things in life she is a stranger to.
It compels me (as good poetry maybe should) to think of what I am a stranger to in life, and perhaps just as importantly,
what am I not a stranger to?
I am not a stranger to chafing dishes,
but I am a stranger to Indian food I am not a stranger to baking a pie, but I am a stranger to
traveling to Africa I am not a stranger to giving birth, but I am a stranger to driving cross country I
am not a stranger to yodeling, but I am a stranger to holding a lizard I am not a stranger to owning
my own business, but I am a stranger to writing a Novel as of yet....
Perhaps the most delicious part of recognizing these things which I am, as of yet, a stranger to, is
rifling through the catalogue of magnificently attractive people already and not yet in my life who might make me an introduction
to these things.
The ones I do already know are the
precious trusteds I often wonder why I haven't made more time with. Those people about whom, when you say
in just three words, how to describe them, those words are:
generous, curious, balanced
That's a fine scavenger hunt list for me, I can't wait to spend time with you trusteds in your introductions
to me, and I can't wait to meet you who I haven't yet, in your hands where I will entrust my fears and vulnerabilities.
What are you a stranger to? What introductions could you make to someone
else? What will your scavenger hunt list look like once you answer those questions? I can't wait to hear! And I can't wait
to tell you about what I learn and see. Happy hunting to us all!
27 feb 11 @ 8:56 am
26 Feb 11
The Leaves in your bucket
It's an era of challenge, isn't it? I feel challenged to sort out the palpable
differences between the unrest in Egypt, continents of culture away and the unrest right here at home in my own state of Wisconsin
over budget battles. I feel the challenge of people just trying to make ends meet so they can rest assured that some unforeseen
or already diagnosed health condition won't change their circumstances so dramatically that they won't even be able to recognize
their lives. Then there are the more attractive and substantive challenges: keep a disciplined gratitude journal; or like
my new American idol Patty Digh challenges me, take the 37 days challenge (find out more at www.37days.com.) I feel up for the challenges, my tennies are laced up, I'm halfway there, right? So I've considered jumping on the pose-a-challenge-band-wagon, and at the risk of being
a modern era cliche, here goes: take the scavenger hunt challenge. Consider starting realistically, instead of squeezing one
more to-do in your already challenging day, try the week. Choose 5 things for your week's scavenger hunt, list them for yourself
wherever you always look, post-it note on the bathroom mirror, notes in your iPhone, whatever works for you, but put it where
it will help you notice it. That will be important because if your life is anything like mine, you will need all the help
you can to stay focused on things not already worn into the ruts of your life. I suggest your list of 5 things be a balance of the silly with the meaningful. And I'm admittedly prone to the color
red (ask a neighbor for a red sock, find a co-worker eating a red velvet cupcake, mark the serendipity of your favorite key-note
speaker taking the stage in blue jeans with red cowboy boots peeking out from her pant cuffs). As far as the meaningful goes,
in this era of challenge, I find the simpler, the better: notice someone holding a warm cup of tea, string of the teabag trailing
(hopefully this images still evokes the slow-down-and-curl-up- with-a-book imagery and not the rally-funded-by-scary- unknown-conspirists-on-the-Capitol-
steps-imagery, or, who am I to define meaningful for you?) Another meaningful item I recently listed was to learn some tidbit
about two of my fellows which I had not previously known; or there's the good 'ole gratitude inducing full moon on a starry
night. You might find all 5 things on your list, and you might not.
The house rules on scavenger hunts at my house include the honorable mention prize. This is the special victory of what you
found along the way which was not an item on the list. You will know it when you see it. It will be the thing so precious
and unexpected that you list it and check it off without even needing a ruling on whether it will count. John and I recently embarked on a home improvement project journey (do it yourselfers-
you know what I mean) which was to replace our bathroom vinyl floor with ceramic tile. We picked out the tile weeks ago and
planned after the holidays to get busy. We peeled away the vinyl floor which wasn't so hard as you might think, since one
of the dogs had given us a good start after accidentally locking himself in the bathroom one day and spending it entertaining
himself literally shadow-boxing with the floor. The result was a giant shredded hole in the vinyl accompanied by a deep welt
in the plywood subfloor all of which was just barely covered by the throw rug for the holiday season, thank you very much.
So we peeled away the vinyl, then the damp and somewhat rotting
subfloor, which exposed the linoleum floor installed by the kindly fellow who built our hosuse 45 years ago. We peeled away
the linoleum to find another layer of damp and somewhat rotting subfloor, at which point I said to John, "honey, pretty
soon I think we might hit the floor joists". He carefully carved out a circle around that ring where the toilet goes
( now, after having peeled away 3 inches of floor, that ring protruding from the floor, re-affirming the term "throne")
to expose a perfectly weathered, halo of tongue and groove hard wood floor. It was like finding buried treasure! We carefully
exposed the remaining square footage of our treasure. The tile went back to home depot. John miraculously, but not surprisingly
figured out how to lower the throne's platform ring, and the bathroom is almost all put back together better than we hoped
for. A tongue and groove hard wood bathroom floor was NOT on my re-do- the-bathroom scavenger hunt list, but it sure tops
the honorable mention prize category now! I'm finding that with every
scavenger hunt, every day or challenge I can bother to meet mindfully, albeit with a little focus trick, the list of items,
whether they are my list of silly blended with meaningful or merely the day's to-do list, is a far more satisfying day when
I start with a list of looking fors. It keeps me aware of what treasures actually emerge, whether they were on the list or
not. Those treasures seem to be topping my gratitude list at night, and I'm coming to know things about the people and places
on my daily route which are far more interesting and vibrant than the tired perspectives I used to face the day with. When I was young, I embarked on scavenger hunts at birthday parties or field trips to
the school forest. Those lists included things like a root beer bottle top or a rock with a fossil on it. Either one of those
items, once plucked by my fat little fingers from the Earth's floor ( urban or forest) was likely to land in my bucket accompanied
by some crushed leaves, which, though not on the list, would wind up in the inventory of my bounty at the hunt's conclusion
anyway. The leaves were unavoidable, like when you scoop a quarter or a cough drop out of your pants pocket, along comes the
pocket lint. So, welcome the "crushed leaves" in your bucket at the end of your day or your week as the honorable
mention of your scavenger hunt list, won't you? Please share with me how you did on your hunt, and what the leaves in your
bucket look like. Have fun!
26 feb 11 @ 7:46 pm
Getting Started
There's something irresistible, isn't there about a clean slate, a fresh sheet on
your tablet, or an empty chalkboard? Such a warm welcome is posed: "fill me up, spend your idea on me, your heart longs
to speak, what is it?" I've been welcomed to share by so many and so warmly, that my my heart's longing is to say thank
you so kindly to all of you cherished trusteds, don't mind if I do. Take
a scavenger hunt is meant to serve as that kind of warm welcome to you, if you please. I find myself too often on a familiar, ordinary route I've been down before. Too busy have I been to follow any of
side paths which have offered me a different destination. Recently I had the magical experience of my own scavenger hunt.
It began as a notion about how to spend a holiday. There was, in fact, a scavenger hunt list. On the Thursday before Christmas,
we set out, some loved ones and I, to find and do a long list of things. We were encouraged and allowed by other loved ones
who lent an importance to it all. We didn't get through the entire list. We didn't end up where we thought we might. We found,
though, in our willingness to seek, treasures we hadn't imagined. So take a scavenger hunt was born as a welcome I find worth
making. In it's purest form, isn't the scavenger hunt really just a list
of mostly ordinary things, some useful, some useless, which you are invited to discover or ask for inside the neighborhood
or community you are positioned in? And you often set about the hunt teamed up with whomever is present,right? And you may
be called upon to seek those ordinary things partnered with those around you from the neighbors who have lived across the
street for twenty years, but whom you have never before asked "may we borrow a red sock, if you have one?" There's
nothing quite like the scavenger hunt from which you truly get out of it as much fun as you put into it. Our first scavenger hunt list included treasures which were more doings and viewings than
collectings, but that was just as much fun. We set out to put dollars in all the red salvation army buckets we could find;
our list included caroling in a nursing home lobby; leaving snow angels; taking a picture under the Christmas tree in the
capital building rotunda, finding real snowmen in people's yards; having Chinese fire drills; and giving away comforts of
warmth (socks and gloves, mostly) to people who needed them. There was more on the list. Like I said, we didn't get through
it all. But we did have an absolute gas! Our hearts were never more full with the magic of the spirit of the season. So much
so that as the year turned new, this reminder sang out from my heart: so there was this magic, and the night was cold, and
we were inspired to offer kindnesses we intended to make last...so I invite you to start fresh with me, start what you intended;
stop what you meant to; dance in the magic of the new with me because we can have the magic every day if we choose it. I'd love to hear about your scavenger hunt. Welcome, as warmly as I know how, to the hunt.
26 feb 11 @ 6:18 pm
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